Benjamin Otu EffiwattRelationships go through all kinds of phases and stages. Most signs are small and innocent changes in your husband’s behavior. One question that everyone secretly asks themselves at one time or another is whether their spouse is developing feelings for another person.
You may be reading this because you have noticed changes in your husband and are wondering if they mean something more. In this article, I explain 7 signs your husband has a crush on another woman. I don’t want you to look for reasons to be suspicious of your husband’s every move, but I do want you to recognize the signs he may show when he starts paying emotional attention to someone else.
When we know the signs and catch them early, we can help our marriages through honesty, communication, and respect.
He Talks About Her All the Time
Does he mention another woman a lot? At first, it may not seem like a big deal.
He talks about a coworker or someone he met the other day. Then, as time goes on, you start to notice he talks about her very often.
Not only does he mention her frequently, but he may also use her as a comparison point:
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“It’s just like Jenna would say…”
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“She would love this…”
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“He laughed just like Ryan does…”
Mentioning another person in passing is normal. We all have coworkers we are friendly with and friends we spend time with.
But when your husband places extra emphasis on her or starts using her opinions as though they were his own—or values her opinion more than yours—that could be a sign.
If you are wondering whether your husband has a crush on another woman and he consistently mentions her when it isn’t necessary, take note.
He Gets Weird About His Phone
Texting and social media make it easy for people to talk to anyone at any time.
If your husband suddenly becomes extremely protective of his phone or what he is doing on it, pay attention.
Does he:
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Turn it away when texting
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Take calls in another room
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Change his passwords out of nowhere
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Always leave his phone face down
If you notice several of these behaviors, what he is doing on his phone may suddenly feel private.
Everyone deserves privacy in a relationship, and it is healthy to have things you don’t share with your spouse. But if he acts overly defensive about his phone and texting, it could be a warning sign.
He may be talking to someone frequently and not want you to see.
He Starts Comparing You to Other Women
When someone is interested in another person, they sometimes begin comparing their partner to that person:
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“She is way nicer than you.”
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“She would never yell at me like that.”
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“She would never let this happen.”
Comparisons can feel insulting, and I understand that. But here is what they often mean:
If he is spending a lot of time thinking about this other person, he may begin to idealize them. When we idealize someone, we focus on their good qualities and overlook their flaws.
If your husband tells you that she would never do certain things or constantly brings her up when discussing problems, that could be a sign he has a crush on another woman.
His Appearance Changes Suddenly
When we like someone, we often become more focused on our appearance.
Does your husband suddenly seem more concerned about how he looks?
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Buying new clothes
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Working out more
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Smelling nicer than usual
If he has started improving his appearance around the same time he began spending more time with a certain person, she might be part of the reason.
We all go through phases of self-improvement, so don’t jump to conclusions if this is the only sign you notice.
But if the changes started after he met her, it could be worth paying attention.
He Becomes Emotionally Distant
Emotional distance can be one of the hardest signs to experience.
If your husband spends less time talking with you or seems less engaged in the relationship, it may be a warning sign.
Possible indicators include:
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Shorter conversations
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Less emotional connection
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Not wanting to spend as much time together
Emotional distance does not automatically mean he is in love with someone else. Stress, work, and personal struggles can also cause distance.
However, if it appears alongside other signs on this list, it may be time to have an honest conversation.
He Immediately Gets Defensive When You Bring Her Up
If you decide to talk about your concerns or ask about the woman he keeps mentioning, his reaction can tell you a lot.
If he becomes defensive or angry, it may mean the topic makes him uncomfortable.
Examples of defensive responses:
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“You’re only asking because you’re jealous.”
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“You’re overthinking things—she’s just a coworker.”
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“Stop worrying about it.”
People often become defensive when they feel accused or uncomfortable. If your husband reacts strongly when you mention her, it could be worth exploring why.
He Starts Making Plans Around Her
This sign is fairly straightforward.
If your husband consistently makes plans that put him near this woman, it may be something to notice.
Does he:
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Volunteer to work late when she is around
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Attend events or gatherings where she will be
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Look for reasons to spend extra time at work
If these patterns exist, he may be creating opportunities to be near her.
Conclusion
If you notice several of these signs, what does it mean? If he spends more time with her, hides his phone behavior, or compares you to her, something might be going on. None of these signs guarantee that your husband definitely has a crush on another woman. However, noticing multiple signs together could mean it is time to talk.
Does he seem emotionally distant? It could be stress or work, but it might also mean his attention is shifting elsewhere. Communication is key in any relationship. If you think your husband may have a crush on another woman, discuss it with him. Allow him to explain his behavior and tell him how it makes you feel.
As long as you approach the conversation with an open mind and heart, you can reach understanding and work toward resolution.
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