Benjamin Otu EffiwattPhysical intimacy and emotional intimacy are two very different things — though most of us have experienced both at some point in our lives. One leaves you gratified for the moment, but inexplicably empty once it’s over. The other leaves you feeling seen, safe, and connected on a level that resonates long after the moment itself has passed.
The difference between the two comes down to one simple factor: whether or not your partner is truly present with you. Not just physically — emotionally.
When a man makes love from the heart, his actions will show you things that words simply can’t.
WHAT DOES IT REALLY LOOK LIKE TO BE EMOTIONALLY PRESENT?
The feeling of your partner being emotionally present is something you know when you feel it, even if you can’t necessarily articulate what about it clicked. You know that he’s not just going through the motions. That he’s really with you, mentally and physically. He knows how you feel in every moment, and he notices your reactions.
For a man in love, being physically intimate with you is an opportunity to show you something he may not be able to put into words. He isn’t thinking about work or the game last night. He’s not halfway there while his body is physically present. He cares about how you feel, and when he’s making love from the heart, he will always make sure you know that.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PHYSICAL AND ROMANTIC INTIMACY
Truthfully, not every time you have sex has to feel life-changing or completely euphoric. Relationships aren’t always going to hit you deep in your soul 24/7. But when a man is truly connecting with you on an emotional level, you’ll notice a difference in his behavior during intimate moments.
He takes things slower, he focuses harder, and he seems completely in tune with your body and your emotions. Romantically-charged intimacy is vulnerable. It’s comfortable, and it brings you closer to your partner in a way that casual sex just can’t.
SIGNS HE’S MAKING LOVE FROM THE HEART
1.He Makes Eye Contact
Eye contact is an extremely intimate act. If you’re locked eyes with someone while being vulnerable with them, you’re seriously opening yourself up. When a man looks you in the eyes while making love to you, it shows he’s fully present and he’s not afraid to let you see him.
He’s giving you his undivided attention, and he’s not checking out mentally when he’s with you. Eye contact is powerful. It’s tough to do if you’re not truly there, and it will allow you to feel closer to your partner when you soak in that intensity together.
2.He Takes His Time
This one should be pretty self-explanatory. If a man is slow and intentional while making love to you, he’s being deliberate about giving you his attention and showing you how he feels. He wants to take things slow so he can enjoy every second of touching and connecting with you.
Another great thing about taking his time? It means he’s listening to your body, noticing what you enjoy, and catering to what you like. Pay attention to how much effort he puts into pleasing you if you want to know how much he cares.
3.He Checks In With You
Making love to someone you truly care about should never just be about sexually gratifying your partner. A man who cares about you will make sure you are okay, check that you’re enjoying yourself, and ask if you want to keep going.
He’s paying attention to your cues and your reactions, and creating a safe space for you to be honest with him. As opposed to just “getting the job done,” he wants you to feel relaxed and excited around him.
4.He Says Sweet Things
Listen closely to what he whispers during intimate moments. There’s a reason his words spill out when he’s making love to you. He cares about you so much that his heart overflows into things he wants you to know.
You might hear him murmur your name, tell you he loves you, or express his attraction to you. He wants you to know everything he’s thinking because he can’t keep it inside. Sweet nothings often mean a lot more than anything else he has to say.
5.He Focuses Only on You
One of the biggest signs that he’s giving you his undivided attention? He doesn’t look at his phone. He doesn’t drift off into his own thoughts. All of him is right there with you in that moment.
He isn’t distracted by outside influences or things that tried to take his mind elsewhere. When a man makes love to you from the heart, you become his whole world.
6.He Holds You Afterward
After you’ve made love, what happens next speaks volumes. Some people want to roll over and go to sleep or check their phone. When a man makes love to you with intention, he won’t want to leave your side just yet.
He wants to cuddle, continue holding you, and soak in that good afterglow with you. He cares about you feeling just as connected to him emotionally when the physical intimacy is over.
7.He Shares Something Vulnerable
Few people are as open as they are when making love to their partner. During moments like these, many men will say something they deeply felt or express gratitude that you are in their life. He cares about you so much that he allows himself to be vulnerable with you.
8.HE ADDRESSES CONCERNS OR MATTERS HE KNOWS ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU.
Don’t mistake this for solving all of your problems while you’re in the middle of making love. When you two make love from the heart, you both view it as a time to truly be with one another and address anything that might be bothering you.
He knows you and understands that you two are a team, so making love to you is also making love to the both of you as a whole.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Words can only tell you so much about whether or not your partner loves you. Sure, he can say it until he’s blue in the face, but if he refuses to look you in the eyes while he says it, do you really believe him?
Actions speak louder than words. When a man truly cares about you, every little thing he does while making love to you will scream it from the rooftops.
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