Benjamin Otu EffiwattStop Making Men Feel Weak Around You
Masculine energies swoon over feminine energy.
You know those women that every man senses immediately? When they walk into a room, men don’t know why they feel even a fraction of weakness in their energy? These women have it going on, and they know how to own their femininity.
I’m not talking about playing games or chasing anyone here. Women that understand femininity know who they are. They walk with purpose. They hold a kind of magnetism that’s irresistible to the right man.
The common denominator among all women like this that I have known is habit.
What Feminine Energy Is (NOT)
First, let’s clear something up…
Being feminine doesn’t mean being weak or a pushover.
It doesn’t mean being timid or shrinking back from having an opinion.
It doesn’t mean you are scarce or trying too hard to get a man to pay attention.
Femininity, in its true essence, means embodying the aspects of yourself that are receptive, warm, graceful, and aware of your emotions.
Masculine energies are attracted to feminine energy because it makes them feel at ease around you. It tells them that you are comfortable with who you are, that you’re not competing against the world around you all the time, and that you have a soft, safe inner world they can access.
Men with healthy masculinity can sense this feminine energy from a mile away. Below are the habits that build this.
She Moves Slowly
Have you ever noticed how some women just seem quicker than others? Maybe they talk faster. Maybe they always seem like they’re in a hurry. Rushing from one place to the next and always slightly distracted.
Women who slow down send a very different message.
When you aren’t rushed, you aren’t controlled.
Slowing your speed shows that you aren’t going to let life run you over. You choose how you spend your time and energy.
You’ll notice this habit shows up in how she talks, how she doesn’t rush her decisions, and how she doesn’t feel the need to fill every silence with noise. Men pick up on this. It’s relaxing and centers them.
It’s feminine.
She Doesn’t Neglect Her Appearance
I feel like we’ve talked about this enough that it should be common sense by now. But there’s a spectrum between a woman who couldn’t care less about her appearance and a woman that’s obsessed with how others perceive her.
The attractive woman lands in the middle.
She takes care of herself because she likes how it makes her feel on the inside. Not because she needs other people’s approval.
Self-love radiates from a woman when she cares about herself on the inside and it shows on the outside. Self-respect is attractive.
She Loves Her Life
Do you know what I think is sexier than a man? Any woman that’s happy in her own life.
If a woman has friends that she adores, hobbies she’s passionate about, places she loves visiting, and things she’s working towards, she exudes a fullness that is really attractive.
She has her life together because she’s already enjoying it. She isn’t waiting for anything or anyone to complete her because on her own she’s whole.
Men are hardwired to provide and take care of those they love. When a woman has her life going, it lets a man know that he can join her and be added to an already wonderful life. He’s not her whole world, and that’s incredibly attractive.
She Converses Softly
This takes some practice, but I promise it’s worth it.
Communicating softly and femininely doesn’t mean you don’t tell your partner how you feel or that you tolerate poor behavior. What it does mean is you can express your needs and feelings without being reactive or harsh.
A feminine woman will fight like hell for what she believes in, but she knows how to speak her truth without triggering someone.
This type of communication allows her partner to feel emotionally safe around her. He will know that he can be his true self with her without worrying about upsetting her. Emotional safety is the foundation of anything built to last.
She Accepts Compliments
Some women are great at giving but terrible at receiving.
They hate when someone compliments them. They feel guilty when someone tries to help. They can’t simply accept love or support from someone else without feeling they need to repay it tenfold.
One of the strongest feminine traits you can master is accepting from others.
When you can take someone’s hand, look them in the eyes, smile, and sincerely say “thank you” without pushing them away, you become magical.
Men are naturally wired to give and feel wanted when they do. Knowing how to receive from them, emotionally and physically, without pushing them away is incredibly sexy.
She Is Rooted
Let me be clear. Women who have their shit together aren’t emotionally unavailable or cold.
They feel things just as deeply as the next woman, but they don’t rely on others to regulate their emotions for them.
They have a way of checking in with themselves, whether that be through journaling, praying, meditation, going on walks, spending time alone, or simply knowing how to sit with their emotions during tough times.
Because she’s grounded in herself, she allows her partner to feel safe being himself around her. He can bring his fears and worries to her and knows she will be there to support him without crumbling under the pressure.
Her grounded energy allows a man to feel rooted near her.
She Doesn’t Chase Men
This may be the oldest feminine trait there is, but it’s timeless for a reason.
Women who know their worth don’t chase anything.
You’ll never hear from her more than once if she’s not getting a response, she won’t text him every hour out of anxiety, and she won’t go anywhere for a man that she knows doesn’t want to go anywhere with her.
She has enough love for herself that she knows the right guy will stay and the wrong ones will fall away. She lets them fall away without burning down her own heart in the process.
There is an innocent confidence that comes from understanding this about herself, and men can’t help but notice it.
Final Thoughts
Femininity at its strongest isn’t about trying to be the woman a man dreams about.
It’s about being so secure within yourself that all the right people become attracted to you naturally. It’s these types of habits that don’t come off as try-hard or forced because you are simply being you.
So stop trying to figure out how to make men feel weak around you and instead start figuring out how to be the best version of yourself. Start with one of these habits and practice it until it becomes second nature. Slowly build on these foundational traits until you find yourself. It’s the most feminine thing of all.
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